Getting a divorce is often considered one of the most difficult times in a person’s life – but there are a few things you can do to try and make the load much lighter. The following tips aim to simplify the process as much as possible, while also attempting to alleviate the emotional burden that this time can have on all parties involved.
Consult a lawyer
The first thing you should do when getting a divorce is seek the counsel of a qualified lawyer. Even if you are on great terms with your ex-partner, the simple act of having an experienced professional guide you through the process can ensure you are better equipped to face what is down the road. Remember, getting a divorce is often considered the ‘easy’ part when it comes to the legalities – the real issues can start to surface when you begin the settlement process, and having someone who can help you navigate these things can make a profound difference.
Consider alternative methods of dispute resolution
Don’t be fooled by all the movies where an aggrieved husband or wife boldly tells their ex-spouse ‘I’ll see you in court’ – litigation is something you want to avoid as much as possible. Not only does it stretch the process out over a long period and cost all parties an extremely large amount of money, but it is likely to put you and your family under more emotional strain. Alternative dispute resolution processes such as mediation, arbitration and negotiation can achieve desirable outcomes by facilitating open communication between all parties. If possible, you should aim to explore these avenues before opting for litigation as they are less time consuming, quicker and less costly.
Try to communicate openly
There’s no doubt that during a divorce process, emotions are often running high. It’s common for all parties to feel sadness, anger, anxiety and confusion and these things can influence one or both parties to act in ways that may not necessarily be in their best interests. Going into your divorce, it’s good to make a conscious effort to communicate openly and honestly about all matters. This is especially important if you are undertaking any of the alternative dispute resolution options mentioned above, as these rely on a good foundation of communication to achieve a positive result that both parties are happy with.
Keep the focus on the kids
Divorce isn’t only difficult for the two married parties – for any kids involved, it can be a tumultuous and confusing time as well. If you and your partner have children, it’s important to ensure that they feel as secure as possible throughout this process. Talking with your partner about how to approach this area is best, as it will allow you to agree on a plan that will hopefully minimise the effect it may have on your little ones.
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